Prayer: A time and a place

Tonight I am reading Joseph Smith-History. I have read it many times, and have recited parts of it more times than I can count. But tonight something new jumped out at me; I love that about the scriptures. 

I think it is notable how much care Joseph put into offering up his prayer. He set aside a special time and a special place where he felt he could be apart from the world and really communicate with God to receive an answer.

During this busy time in my life, and especially at this busy time of year, it is difficult for me to be alone at any time or place. My prayers are too often hurried or drowsy or even forgotten. How much power do I miss out on when I fail to create a sacred space--both in location and time--to communicate with my Father and receive answers from Him? 

And incredible time to be a young woman.

I love this quote from this interview with Elaine S. Dalton, General Young Womens President:

This is an incredible time to be a young woman and a member of the Church. The young women have been preparing for this time. They are virtuous. They are worthy to receive and use their own limited-use temple recommend, they are taking the names of their ancestors to the temple, and they continue to participate in camp, Personal Progress, and class presidencies. The opportunity to serve a mission will be one more way that a young woman can spread the gospel of Jesus Christ, become an articulate advocate for the family, and assist in hastening the Lord’s work on the earth. It is indeed an honor to serve these precious daughters of God at this time. It is humbling. Heavenly Father loves and trusts His precious daughters, and now, as never before, is the time to flood the earth with their virtue, their strong spirits, and their light. They are worthy and prepared to serve the Lord. They are incredible. And they are changing the world.

It is an incredible time to be a young woman. I love that she points out how the young women have been preparing for this time, when they are so desperately needed. I am excited that more women will have the opportunity to serve missions. I am excited that this will increase the likelihood of my sons marrying return missionaries, as those women will have had some wonderful training in becoming, as Sister Dalton says, "articulate advocates" for the Gospel and the family. In this world, my children and their children will need that strength.

On Eve's Marital Counseling.

This has been on my mind since I am reading the Pearl of Great Price, and it seems fitting for this week. After partaking of the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, this is what God told Adam and Eve:

 16 Unto the ^awoman he said, I will greatly ^bmultiply thy ^csorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth ^dchildren; and thy desire shall be to thy ^ehusband, and he shall rule over thee.

 17 And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy ^awife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: ^bcursed is the ground for thy sake; in ^csorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life;

 18 ^aThorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field;

 19 In the ^asweat of thy face shalt thou eat ^bbread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for ^cdust thou art,and unto ^ddust shalt thou return.

That phrase, "thy desire shall be unto thy husband" has been sitting in the back of my mind for a while. Those who are looking to find offense against women will say (have said!) that this is God, or organized religion, relegating women to second class. Telling them they must unquestioningly submit to their husband's desires, and that they have no say or power unto themselves. This is so far from what I have been taught in Church and what I have understood from the scriptures! My feelings of late have been more along the lines of what President Kimball described in this April 1978 discourse (a good one on women and the Church!), which echoes a revelation to Joseph Smith recorded in D&C 83:

The scriptures remind us that “Women have claim on their husbands for their maintenance, until their husbands are taken.” (D&C 83:2.) Women also have a claim on their husbands for respect, fidelity, and thoughtfulness for in that subtle, sweet relationship that should obtain between men and women, there is partnership with the priesthood.

I'm sure that this first instruction to Adam and Eve with regards to the mortal world was meant to help them (an us; remember this was recorded by Moses to be instructional to future generations) navigate it as a team. To remain one, as they had been commanded. And that required some division of labor. Eve is told that childbearing is going to be really hard. Her desire was going to be unto her husband. But unto her husband what? For one, I think that he desire was going to be a guide unto her husband. He needed to provide for her needs and wants. To care for her. To be her protector and aid, especially when she was in the vulnerable state of bearing, nursing, and rearing children. I think it is also a reminder to support, sustain, and respect her husband in that providing role, since his job isn't easy either, as his family's sustenance depends on "the sweat of his brow." It may be a reminder for Eve to not try to run the show and do everything, but to let her husband provide and preside as he should. It is a reminder to both that they need each other. It is good counsel. It is counsel I need a lot of the time.

In the end, I suppose my sentiment is this: if you are looking for offense, you will find it. If you are looking to feel oppressed or discriminated or put down, you will find those feelings as well. But if you are looking for our Father, to know His nature, His will, and His doctrine, that is what you will find. It may not always look like what you want to hear, but in the end it will take you where you want to be.

"Latter-day Saint Dating"

I found this handout in with all of my old institute stuff that I have been slowly cleaning out. It doesn't have any source or reference information, but it was kind of funny to skim through.

Latter-day Saint Dating

1. Go where you can meet people in a wholesome atmosphere.
2. Help others get acquainted. Set people up. Where appropriate, be a matchmaker.
3. Date people who honor the Covenant.
4. Date with the spirit of inspiration and revelation.
5. Don't kiss someone on Saturday and act like you never met them on Sunday.
6. Do original and fun dates rather than just go to the movies.
7. Realize that the amount of money spent doesn't make for a good date.
8. Dress modestly.
9. Double and triple date--include others.
10. Don't share your past worldliness.
11. Don't be a faultfinder.
12. Stay morally clean.
13. After you quit dating, don't share confidences shared in dating.
14. Don't gossip.
15. Help people who are nervous to feel comfortable.
16. Don't look only on the outward appearance.
17. Don't judge others motives and feelings.
18. Be interested in others--their life, their interests, their hobbies, their family, etc.
19. Take the spirit with you. Three is never a crowd. Pray when appropriate.
20. Have the courage to be tactful and yet honest.
21. Study the gospel together.
22. If you know you are going to break it off--get it over with.
23. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve.
24. Be careful with the words, "I Love You."
25. Have a reasonable curfew.
26. Make the restored church an integral part of your dating.
27. Other people's goals and standards should be sustained and not put down.
28. Don't use people for status purposes.
29. Don't "throw in the towel" at the first obstacle.
30. Work and study together.
31. Courtesy is a great lubricant in relationships.
32. See only worthy movies.
33. Be friends first.
34. Spend more time talking. Lower the stereo while driving.
35. Don't play games.
36. Don't dance to degrading music.
37. Be interested in your date's family. Share your family.
38. Be sensitive to other people's hearts.
39. Eliminate some role stereotypes.
40. Introduce your date to others. Help others get acquainted.
41. Have personal prayer before and after dates.
42. Don't show affection to people you don't intend to date.
43. Acknowledge that marriage is a high priority to you and to the Lord.
44. Be an example of a believer.
45. Improve yourself rather than looking for perfection in others.
46. Don't disregard the teachings of the General Authorities and Prophets.

On the First Apostasy

Thus apostasy began; men fell away from the truth even in the day of righteous Adam; men turned to carnal and ungodly practices even in the day when there were living witnesses to tell them of Eden's beauty, of the fall and promised redemption, and of angelic ministrations and heavenly revelations of the mind and will of Him whose they are and we are."

Bruce R. McConkie, Mortal Messiah, 1:229-30

While it is entirely possible that Satan, in a literal way, came among Adam's children, i.e., appeared as a person to them, such an experience is so much out of the normal experience of students (or for that matter almost all people) that much more understanding of what happened to Adam's children may be obtained by comparing the situation to something nearer to home. It may well be that the text is personifying the spirit of apostasy as Satan. Certainly the apostate believes he is the "son of God" who is on the right track, while the Church and its leaders are accused of having gone astray.

CES PGP outline, Ellis Rasmussen

Interesting note for carnivores

There is no statement in the scriptures indicating that the flesh of animals and birds and other living creatures was used as food before the days of Noah. It was after the landing of the ark that the Lord gave his commandment concerning the eating of flesh.

Joseph Fielding Smith, Answers to Gospel Questions, 4:42.

Instead of our first parents eating animal food, they subsisted upon herbs and fruits of the earth, which were originally designed for the food of man.

Orson Pratt, in Times and Seasons, 6 [1 June 1845]: 918.

I am still eating chicken for dinner tonight. I just thought these were interesting and didn't remember hearing anything of the sort beforehand.

Consistency

For as I, the Lord God, liveth, even so my words cannot return void, for as they go forth out of my mouth they must be fulfilled.

Moses 4:30

I think it no coincidence that one of the points that always comes up in discussions of parenting and discipline is following through and being consistent. That is how Heavenly Father parents us. If our words "return void" after they have gone out of our mouths, our children won't be able to develop trust and faith in us, and they won't be motivated to follow us.